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Indulgence. That word can have a negative connotation tied to it. It can attach other meanings such as selfishness and greed. People feel guilty engaging in activities that allow them to express self-love. However, in this article, we will discuss the reasons why you should self-indulge within reason.


Many of us have been bombarded with requests. It could be work, family, friends, home, pets, and many other obligations. Life seems like a constant to-do list. We are just waiting to check off the next task. Many are running like chickens without a head trying to accomplish everything. The fact is that your energy reserves have a limit no matter how much you want to do.


If old habits don’t change, we can become resentful and have bitter feelings toward other people. It isn’t the other people’s fault that you feel this way. This is a mismanagement of your main priority - yourself. That’s right, you have to take responsibility. Let’s dive in on how we can accomplish that.


This can be done by taking stock. A great way to do this is to write it down. There will always be responsibilities that are a priority, but see where you can bend it a bit. Begin to schedule yourself time to recharge. Think of activities you enjoy. This will be so beneficial to your well-being. It can be anything just permit yourself to enjoy the journey.


In the evening take an extra hour to soak in a hot bath. The warmth of the water can soothe and rejuvenate you. Take the plunge and read a book that you have been putting off. Have you been wanting to try your hand at art? Take some online classes and commit to them. You must take this time for your contentment. The key is balance. Life shouldn’t always be about work. Schedule some time for play.


The importance of the word no. Yes, many of us are afraid to say no. We feel that we let others down. Setting boundaries is crucial in taking care of yourself. The truth is that you don’t have to accept every demand that comes your way. Don’t take more on your plate than you can handle. Just like any change, this may seem hard at first. However, the more you do it, the easier it will become.


Ask for help. If you are feeling overwhelmed with anything, delegate the workload. For example, housecleaning, assign other family members chores. Many times, they would love to help. If that doesn’t work, hire a hand. Hey, if it buys you an entire Saturday morning of your time, it is of value.


One final thought. Let go of the illusion that everything has to be perfect. There is no such thing as perfect. Learn to be content in beautiful imperfection. Shift your thoughts to the present. Practice having gratitude and understand that you just being is the absolute most amazing experience that you will ever have. Take that extra time and be well.

- Confidant Maria


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