Selfishness As Self-Love
There are 2 main meanings of selfishness in my books. The first is the bratty kind where
you make decisions that don’t benefit others. That is the harmful kind. Little actions such as
littering. Doing things that are not right and continuing to do it anyway. These actions show
lack of respect for others.
Lack of sharing is another. Being in a place where you cannot share is not selfishness. If
you are running on empty you are not in a position to give. This selfishness is self-
preservation. You recognize the healthy medium where you have to replenish yourself first.
You recognize the importance of saying no and not taking on more projects. You
understand that there is nothing lazy about relaxing and taking time for yourself.
This is self-love. An individual must understand that they have to have their needs taken
care of first. When you overexert yourself, you become tired. You have the right to make
yourself happy. Both your mental and physical state require it. When your cup is full then
you are in a position to share. Self-love is not about sacrificing your well-being. Self-love is
about understanding you come first.
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what helps you rejuvenate. Until next time, take care and be well.-Confidante Maria